Why do we teach little girls practically from birth that their looks are important? Why? Every time we see a pretty little girl, we say something like “Oh, look how cute she is!” “Look at that pretty face!” “Isn’t she adorable?” “Aren’t you pretty?”
From the positive feelings they get, the tone is set for the rest of their lives. Their looks matter. Not only do they matter, but they get much more attention if they are pretty. I know we are a society that values appearance, but people look at little boys in a completely different way. “Oh, my, isn’t he a big boy?!” “Feel that grip he has.” “My, aren’t you strong?” Power. It is important…if you are male.
Recently, I was watching Toddlers and Tiaras. Oh, my, what are these mothers thinking? They are creating plastic monsters! Plastic looks…little girls covered in FAKE. Make-up, wigs, false eyelashes, “flippers” or false teeth, dresses that cost far more than the prizes could ever cover, adult dance moves and flirting, and these overworked, over-tired, over-pampered little girls have turned into bad-tempered, hateful little girls and it’s all the fault of mothers who cannot accept that they are aging and no longer (or never did) fit the beauty queen image.
Why aren’t little girls and women rewarded for being powerful or intelligent instead of beautiful? Powerful women, women who rise in the corporate or political world, are considered battleaxes…or worse. They have the nerve to speak their opinions, push for what they believe in. Men who do this are assertive. Women who do this are aggressive. Okay, so they are referred to as that lovely word that begins with B…you know the one. Rhymes with witch. (I’m not really a goody-two-shoes, just don’t really think I want to get into cuss words in my blog.)
I keep thinking of those mothers and their little temper-tantrum-throwing tots. Yikes! And the girls who are so obsessed with appearance that they resort to anorexia, bulemia, crazy diets and outrageous forms of plastic surgery when they should be studying, working to be as successful as possible in school and working towards a college degree and a career. And work with charities builds character, something far more important than looks. Intelligence and consideration of others will be there for you far after your looks are fading.
“Outside show is a poor substitute for inner worth.” ~ Aesop